Now that the first month of the New Year is about to end, it is time to consider changing yourself into someone better that your friends and family would love. Make it a top priority to turn your life around so that you will become happier than ever. Keep in mind that as long as you remain as a negative person, it will be difficult on your part to accomplish great things. As such, you need to make an effort to become a better you. Below are some of the things that you must remember if you want to improve yourself:
Recognize Your Abilities
Remember that you are an amazing person who can succeed in this world. Do not let other people make you think that you are unworthy of love and affection. Take note that you have reached where you are now because you dared to keep going and persevere. As long as you recognize your abilities, you will become a great individual who is bound to experience the best things that life has to offer.
Stop Making Excuses
Learn to own up to your mistakes and never put the blame on others. Be responsible enough to identify yourself as someone who has done some unspeakable things. Never make the mistake of justifying all the bad or negativities actions that you have done in the past. Stop making excuses because it will not offer anything good on your part. Instead, accept the reality that you are not perfect, but it does not mean that you will continue to mess things up.
Be More Forgiving
Did someone hurt or cause any pain to you? Do you think it is high time to fight back or avenge? If you answered yes to these questions, then you are in great trouble. Remember that just because someone hurt you does not give you the right to hurt the same person again. Life is not all about revenge. Hence, you have to start to become more forgiving to those who have sinned. Be emphatic enough to understand what they are going through as well as their motivations. According to Lissa Rankin, M.D. ,a mind-body medicine physician, “Forgiveness is an offering of grace – and with that grace comes emotional freedom, liberation from the downward spiral of negativity that resentment breeds, and an opportunity for personal redemption.”
Wherever you go in this world, be sure to remind yourself of the importance of maintaining honesty at all times. The secret to becoming a better version of yourself is to have a deeper understanding of who you are. Avoid lying to others because it will only put you in a compromising situation. Be sure to tell everyone about the truth at all times. Failure to do this can lead to more problems and can even put you in trouble. Nonetheless, it is still imperative on your part to be more discreet when It comes to telling the unexpected truths about anything or anyone.
Listen To Others
Psychologist Diana Raab Ph.D. asks, “Are you open-minded and flexible? This means that you’re self-aware and listen to the thoughts and musings of yourself and others.” Another technique that you must consider if you want to transform yourself is to have constant and effective communication with the people around you. Learn how to listen to what others have to say about the way you live your life and how you act. Always remember that these people only want nothing but the best from you. As such, if someone approaches you and points out a bad thing about your attitude or action, make sure to avoid acting hysterical. Instead, appreciate the fact that someone still cares.
The next strategy that you must consider primarily is to focus on acquiring more knowledge about a particular topic. Every day is an opportunity to enjoy education outside the bounds of a four-walled classroom. For example, you can sign up for workshops or seminars so that you will learn something new from the keynote speakers or even the attendees. Just make sure to listen carefully to get the essential details.
Be Kind And Generous
To make yourself feel good and achieve continuous improvement, it is imperative on your part to spread kindness to everyone around you. Do not be aloof, but instead find a way to share what you have to those who are unfortunate in this life. Never let anyone feel that you are selfish as it can create chaos. At this point, you need to think of the positive effects that will come in your life the moment you start acting generously for those who deserve it.
Never-ending improvement is only possible if you continue to appreciate what you have in this life. Recognize the great things surrounding you. At the same time, make an effort to let your loved ones know how much they matter in your life. You will never succeed if you have no ability to become grateful. The best part of all is that practicing gratitude is so easy to do. You just need to start looking for the best in every person, circumstance or situation. Do not keep on wanting for more if you think it will not be worth it in the end.
“When you practice things like gratitude or mindfulness, your brain creates shortcuts for these skills, making it easier and easier each time you do it,” said Tchiki Davis, Ph.D.
Make 2019 as the year of new beginnings/