Often when someone is about to climb up a career ladder to success, happiness will get in the way. It’s like being torn between two lovers, always caught between which to choose – success or happiness.
Why is there always a need to choose between those two? Can’t we just have both? It’s not about being greedy, but why not if at all possible?
Opportunity Knocks Not Just Once
Have you considered the thought of achieving success on your own terms, not dictated by some people who are already way ahead of you trying to reach for your hand to pull you up?
They often will persuade you by saying, “Opportunity knocks only once,” and not grabbing it means it will be gone forever, and will never again pass your way in your lifetime. That is the very reason why many are hurrying to go up the ladder, the thought of as if the steps will be burned if they will not take it. They think that there will be no other way up there but that just one path. The truth is, it will only be there, whether you accept it or not. Others following you might take it, but you don’t need to worry. There will be more ladders available which are more worth your climb.
Never Burn Your Boat Unless You Find Both In Your Destination
Sometimes, we follow other people blindly without listening to ourselves. We leave everything behind just to pursue the ambition, the dream we’ve imagined all our lives. But often, only when we are there will we realize that it’s not really what we wanted.
It becomes not what you imagined it to be, simply because it’s not the dream that you thought will bring you your happiness. This time your dream has failed you, so then what should you do next? You go back from where you started, doing what you’re passionate about, and begin again from there. “To shift to a more positive mindset and help you be more productive,” psychologist Emma Seppälä recommends, “replacing your belief in strengths with belief in your efforts and replacing self-criticism with self-compassion.”
Happiness Is A Choice
Before you decide on climbing up the ladder to career success, analyze and study things carefully. Is it worth the sacrifice? As what Dr. Wayne Dyer noted, “Our intentions create our reality.” Happiness is always a choice. Yes, you often have to make a decision, but if you made the right one, you could have both success and happiness at the same time.
Scrutinizing the tail and head sides of the coin, examining the four corners of your room, ask yourself, “Is this what I really want?” It’s a crucial question which you should be able to answer with all honesty.
The Climb Is Worth For Those Who Wait
“Opportunity will come your way just this once” are just words, a sales talk, with no much truth to it. Everything, good or bad, comes around and goes around.
The opportunity you did let go because you think it will put your happiness at risk, means waiting for another better one to come your way. When that happens, your glass may be half empty, very much available to be filled. This time, it might be something you’re ready to grab. Perhaps this time it’s something that will not just cater to your material needs, but something that you want and something that you really are happy to take on.
Success and happiness are not impossible to achieve; you just got to learn how to listen to your inner self, the one you’re hiding inside your mind and your heart. If it would mean letting go of what you’ve been dreaming of, so what?
Success will never make sense if you’re not happy about it. But once you’re satisfied with your choice, success is not far from your reach.
As what psychotherapist Joyce Marter quoted, “Everything in life is interconnected. As we evolve, our relationships, work and lives blossom. And, conversely, as we are impacted by our relationships and our work, we evolve.” If you let synchronicity take its course, happiness and success will unfold right before your very eyes.