When the mind is empowered, the impossible becomes possible.
Focusing on the positive aspects of life can be quite difficult at times, especially if your thoughts keep spinning wildly in their tangents taking you for an unfortunate ride. Indeed, the way you think about yourself and your situation can be quite powerful for it contributes to the welfare of your work, life, and relationships. Neel Burton M.D. suggests, “Remind yourself that, despite your problems, you are a unique, special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself.”
Since time immemorial, humans were programmed with knowing how to fight or run, which is quite useful during critical moments of making decisions. Evolution did not change how people think because, until this day, we are wired to think similarly like our ancestors – to stay or go. It is, however, a typical thought process to immediately react because we use our natural defense mechanisms against external and internal triggers that may cause either negative or positive outcomes.
From a reasonable perspective, a person’s brain treats events and situations seen or observed on television as something to be wary of. According to clinical psychologist Dr Judith Johnson, “When your brain tells you that you have no business speaking up in a meeting or that you are too out of shape to work out, remind yourself that your thoughts aren’t always accurate.” In fact, people tend to get triggered by witnessing troubling things that it becomes their reality, creating an illusion that someday, that troublesome act might occur at any given moment. This type of thinking can heighten one’s awareness and preparedness just in case they might encounter the same mishaps, exhibiting how powerful the brain works.
Harnessing Brain Power
That good news is, your thoughts are as powerful as you recognize them to be; the bad news is, you have little to no idea how to harness them and put them to good use.
By getting a hold of your thoughts, you can empower yourself and your relationships in ways unimaginable. Though it may seem farfetched, if you believe that things will go your way, and you cultivate your thoughts right, positive results are not unattainable. Take control of your brainpower and follow these techniques:
- Notice Your Thoughts
Whenever your consciousness starts to wander and starts reeling towards dreams, past events and situations, take note of how your body reacts. Being mindful of the way your heart starts pounding or how your breath becomes shallow when you remember something that happened or predict something that might happen. It is beneficial for you to filter out disempowering and empowering thoughts. Analyze these thoughts and ask yourself how they are contributing to your overall well-being.
- Get Your Ego Checked
Sometimes, it’s all inside the mind; though, there will be times that your thoughts and your gut are telling you something and warning you about the danger. But then again, these things can just be because you are becoming more morally and socially aware of what’s currently happening that your thoughts are starting to mess with your head. Ego checking protects people from imminent threats; however, on the flip side, these thoughts are also disallowing us to be in charge of our mind and body.
Breathe; did that make you feel better? Do it again. “Notice your breath flowing in and out, the many sensations that you are experiencing,” said Courtney E. Ackerman, MSc.
Asking yourself to calm down and breathe is a simple, yet, often forgotten nugget of information which can be applied to almost any stressful situation. Deep breathing is a technique commonly used by therapists, meditation and health gurus for the act is highly beneficial for the body. Whenever you feel pervasive, taxing anxiety seeping in, practice deep breathing to calm your nerves and clear your mind. This is one effective way to get a hold of your thoughts and not panic.
- Stick With Uplifting Concepts
Negative thoughts can weaken a person’s ideas and dreams. Therefore, focusing on filling your consciousness with nothing but uplifting, positive concepts will empower your mind and your attitude towards life’s lowest moments. Feed your brain information that is beneficial not only for your future but your partner’s as well. Knowledge is a powerful tool that will get you far. Furthermore, build strong connections and surround yourself with people who also have the same high-spirited nature as you are. Let them inspire and influence you to become more positive and empowered.
Strengthening oneself will yield strong relationships; this is vital information that you must not take for granted. Exercise mindfulness for it keeps you connected with your intuition, enhance your ability to figure out what’s wrong, and filter out harmful ideas lurking in your mind. Once you’ve mastered the art of empowering your thoughts, good things will immediately follow.
The brain and the human body do not function in isolation from each other; instead, they are operating like a symphony which produces the behavioral consonance of life. Therefore, keeping the body in shape and following a health regimen can increase brain health.
Here are some counseling recommendations and techniques that will keep our brain to its fullest potential:
Be Conscious Of Your Health
It is vital for us to gain control of our health and to understand that we are primarily responsible for taking care of our body and keeping it in shape. The moment we get to establish our role in managing our health, the importance of a close and trusting relationship with our healthcare providers becomes more meaningful. According to Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. a Clinical Health Psychologist, “Investing in your health now can pay dividends for the rest of your life.”
Subjects concerning a person’s health should be openly discussed with a physician and with the healthcare team to organize a plan for illness prevention and health promotion. Physical examinations on a regular basis are required. It is also wise to follow the advice of your healthcare provider.
Relax In The Goodness of Silence
Society’s rapid evolution often leaves us overwhelmed and stressed with very little room to relax and process what’s happening. To benefit more from daily encounters, a person’s brain needs a sufficient amount of time, and uninterrupted silence to handle and process all information that was learned and experienced. If we don’t allow our body to slow down, it will eventually malfunction and will become a threat to our well-being. Give your body and mind the opportunity to recuperate by freeing yourself from responsibilities or obligations even for a day. “So if you’re ever feeling brave enough to get an honest look at who you are and who you could be, try a silent retreat. It could be a wild ride,” suggests Kimberly Russell M.A., M.S.Ed.
Create An Exercise Routine
Though many would not consider the thought of doing exercise for whatever reason, creating an exercise routine is highly beneficial for the brain. Exercise that is done regularly not only reduces the risk of having neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer’s disease, but it also enhances mental and physical functions.
Anxiety and depression are also prevented because workouts can stimulate the release of happy hormones. Brain health, quality of sleep, energy levels, and an overall sense of well-being are all improved by engaging yourself in exercise.
Cultivate Strong Relationships And Connections
A person’s ability to efficiently interact with other people is essential in preserving or cultivating healthy relationships. Isolation can cause health issues. Research demonstrates the necessity of having a constant stream of social networks to reduce the possibility of developing dementia. Consistent development and sustainment of new relationships enhance health-promoting behaviors such as stress reduction and effective emotional expression.
Furthermore, new friends and people can share information, experiences, emotions, wisdom, trust, and challenges that you have never encountered or known. Stronger connections with people offer the much-needed motivation that one needs to power through.
Always Find Meaning In Everything
Your life must be driven by a strong desire to find purpose in anything and everything you do. Finding meaning in life is one of the leading contributors to longevity. Being determined enough to be actively involved in whatever life brings is significant in yearning for healthy well-being. Positivity can take you further and higher. In fact, a psychologist at Stanford, Emma Seppälä, PhD, pointed out, “If you want to be happier and more successful in life, it’s important to fight the brain’s natural tendency to focus on the negative. Instead, try looking at the world through a positive, self-compassionate mindset.”
It is our primary responsibility to continuously discover, hone, and nurture these different roles to relate it to the purpose and meaning of life. Developing multiple interests and skills during your lifespan, no matter the age is necessary for keeping your brain fully-functional and in superb condition.
For a healthier and happier disposition, people must let go of the things and attitudes that destroy them from the outside and the inside. If you don’t want to end up in an office, in front of your psychiatrist, there are vices or bad habits that you should start quitting before your mind and body go bonkers.
It’s never untimely to let go of a vice and aim for a healthier and happier life. What are some of the bad habits that you need to say goodbye to?
Increased Alcohol Consumption
Too much of something can be detrimental to your health and alcohol is definitely on top of that list. In small doses and only on certain occasions, alcohol is actually good for the body; however, if consumed increasingly and on a daily basis, alcohol becomes the poison that destroys your body one glass at a time. Consuming more than three drinks on a regular basis can cause a high risk for the following physical and mental conditions:
- Liver damage
- High blood pressure
- Cancers involving mouth and liver
- Heart disease
- Memory loss
Sedative And Painkiller Abuse
Habitual, long-term use of sedatives and painkillers can cause more health problems than they resolve. Taking in medications like aspirin and ibuprofen for muscle pain may increase your risk of developing GI bleeding, heart attack, and ulcers.
Sleeping pills and drugs that calm the senses can cause confusion and make people prone to falling or stumbling, especially in high doses. Furthermore, the feel-good effects of sedatives and pain medications are highly addictive, that if not ceased will cause a cascade of psychiatric illnesses.
Investing Too Much Time On Negativity
A negative environment begets an adverse reaction; therefore, pessimism should be out of the equation. “If you want to be happier and more successful in life, it’s important to fight the brain’s natural tendency to focus on the negative. Instead, try looking at the world through a positive, self-compassionate mindset,” says psychologist at Stanford, Emma Seppälä, PhD. However, there are certain aspects of one’s life wherein negativity is always present – from your co-workers, boss, relatives, friends, and partner.
In cases where you just can’t take them out of your life for specific valid reasons, you can limit or lessen your exposure to them in such a way that their toxicity will not be passed down to you. People who are always problematic will suck the positive energy out of you and make you feel down. Long-term exposure to such negativity increases one’s likelihood of depression.
Having A Sedentary Lifestyle
Are you too lazy to do anything? Are you just satisfied spending precious time in front of the TV? According to psychiatrists, this is a bad habit that can immensely impact a person’s mental health. Exerting psychological and physical effort with activities like exercise or working on your hobby lowers depression and anxiety while uplifting your mood. By being physically active, you are triggering your brain to release serotonin and endorphins that effectively alleviate depressive symptoms. “Take a walk, see a comedy, go out with a friend,” suggests Karen Gasper, PhD. “These breaks may help you feel better and see your work in a new light.”
As much as we hate to admit, we love sleeping late. According to a study made by Binghamton University, people who go to bed late have encountered repetitive and chronic negative thinking the entire day, which is commonly linked to depression. On the other hand, those who did go to bed early were seen to have fewer episodes of pessimism. “We’re in a different biochemical state when we’re dreaming, and that’s why I think dreams can be so helpful anytime we’re stuck in our usual mode of thinking,” psychologist Deidre Barrett, PhD.
Quitting the abovementioned bad habits that can affect one’s mental health in the long run and can result in psychiatric intervention is challenging but possible. For as long as you have decided against your bad habits, positive ones will come rushing in.
Many businessmen often say they created their business from nothing, that they were able to build an empire from the ground up.
Passion fuels them to push forward and makes the impossible possible. For them, the ideas they believe in are worth investing their time and energy on, so that those visions will not just remain visions but realities. According to Dr. Priyanka Kalra, a Psychiatrist and Director at Global Child Wellness Center, “one major cause of burnout at work or even in studies is people being made to pursue what they are not passionate about.”
Your passion defines you because it is a part of yourself. It is you. That is why it has to be in harmony with everything in your life.
Ideas Can Bear Fruits Only If You Work On Them
Put out those seeds of ideas, scatter them into the fertile soil placed under the sun, and when the seedlings start to sprout, continue watering and nurturing them with love and care and watch them grow into something unimaginable.
Put your passion into action, your dream into reality and success will be in harmony with all aspects of your life.
Unless you do something about that firing passion within you, that seed will remain a seed, and may eventually rot and will be gone along with your dreams and your happiness. “In other words, your willingness to take risks may vary across different areas of your life, but it will always be affected by the underlying general factor of risk preference.” said Dr. Renato Frey from the University of Basel and the Max Planck Institute for Human Development.
Take That Leap Of Faith
Be honest with yourself and open your mind to all possibilities. Nothing in this world is sure, and it’s not always safe. You will never know where your passion can take you unless you lift a step and cut those deck of cards.
Never let fear or desire cripple your dreams.
Learn from the life-changing lessons shared by the most successful people who just followed their passion.
Everybody Deserves To Be Successful
Change your mindset from “I’m not good” to “I’m best at what I love to do,” “I don’t deserve it” to “I can earn it.” Stop procrastinating and making excuses. That’s one ridiculous thing you can do to yourself, denying yourself the chance to be happy by not following your passion. “If you are overly narrow and committed to one area, that could prevent you from developing interests and expertise that you need to do that bridging work,” says Gregory Walton.
Surround Yourself With People Who Will Encourage You And Help You Take The Path
Be with people who are positive. Do not think of them as your rivals, but know that you can build each other through encouragement and offer one another support to reach each of your goals. Be with people who can help you develop and enrich your network, people who help each other step up the ladder to achieve greater things.
Overcome Obstacles By Focusing On Your Strength
There will always be obstacles, and you’re not the only one experiencing difficulties. Don’t forget that there may be some people who have much worse situations and troubles than you do, but they were able to surpass them with flying colors. Move forward to your goals focusing on what you have in front of you, your strength and all other assets you have.
Nothing Is Impossible, And You Can Make Anything Happen
Nothing can beat commitment and determination combined with a good idea. Every successful business magnate has his own stories on how they became successful. Success is not something they earned overnight, and their stories are all interesting. Those stories inspire people who also want to make the realization of dreams possible for them.
Let Go Of That Wrong Belief System
Many people have not considered pursuing their dreams because of fear – fear of what others might say, fear of failure, fear of losing everything. Get rid of that mindset, because it will get you nowhere but be stuck in that comfort zone of yours forever. If you keep on thinking what others might say, you let them win, and you fail yourself by becoming the loser.
Getting out of your comfort zone, following your passion, and taking the risk are what make life exciting. When you’re out there in the unfamiliar space, when you feel lost, that is when your brain becomes active. That is when you will become creative. Beat your own procrastination and start pumping that enthusiasm to reaching your goal with encouragement and inspiration.
Following your passion is one of the secret roads to success.
Do you ever wonder what the secret to success is? What do other individuals have that you don’t? Is there really such a thing as the chosen few?
Instantaneously, when people think of creating and integrating significant changes in their lives, the first thing that one could think of is how distant those dreams are and how treacherous the path can be. Looking at challenges and demands at a pessimistic point-of-view can significantly influence the way people mold their future. As what psychologist Emma Seppälä, PhD, pointed out, “If you want to be happier and more successful in life, it’s important to fight the brain’s natural tendency to focus on the negative. Instead, try looking at the world through a positive, self-compassionate mindset.”
Positivity has something to do with a person’s overall health. It could affect his mental and psychological being by working on specific measures in increasing self-determination in a pretty unexpected way. Getting more positive ideas and concentrating on something productive can give you the inevitable success that can work through your actions. Your thoughts create a logical perspective that you can unquestionably use on a daily basis. “Understand that positivity attracts positivity through the laws of attraction. Keep a gratitude journal. Choose to be your best cheerleader rather than your worst critic,” said psychotherapist Joyce Marter.
So how can you use your positive thoughts for opportunities and growth? Here are some of the best ways you can use your optimism for self-empowerment.
Lowers Your Fear – Your fear will make you vulnerable, so the exposure to the things around you is your best way to understand every unmanageable situation. Positive thoughts (together with determination) will make you tear down the invisible barrier that hinders you in doing something beyond your limits. You’ll be able to appreciate the hardships of life and make better decisions that can help you become an ideal person.
Boosts Your Self-Confidence – Your optimism can make you discover great things about yourself that can somehow surprise you. It will try to motivate you to do the things you thought you couldn’t do. It will give a strong feeling of self-worth that challenges you to become a better version of yourself. Your positive thoughts will create a dominant control over your universe and use it to create a reachable outcome from what you think is an impossible goal. As what Catherine Moore, Psychologist, MBA noted, “With the right mindset, it may be possible to handle challenges better and pursue success without getting down on yourself.”
You Learn To Take Risks – Your fears and lack of confidence happens to be a significant problem when you try to get out from your comfort zone. However, your positivity can work its way to give you the determination in your life-changing decisions. You will eventually learn to take the risk. You’ll realize that your efforts will bring out the best in you.
You’ll Recognize Happiness – The clear and positive thoughts is a beneficial way to check the emotional aspects that you need to understand about yourself. Through optimism, you’ll be able to appreciate the small things that significantly matter. Your mindset can promote awareness of the current issues you need to deal with in your life. You’ll soon become happier and determined your goals in life.
Teaches You To Appreciate Yourself – Having a positive thought is something you should always do. It will make you appreciate every little effort you make for yourself and other people. The feeling of self-worth and self-respect will give you positive energy that will slowly diminish all the negativities you have in your mind.
As what Madhuleena Roy Chowdhury, BA , a certified psychiatric counselor, said, “Optimism is all about how we perceive things.” Your optimism will become your power to see things differently. And by looking at the beautiful sides of life, you will merely appreciate that there is always something you can contribute to the world. You will realize that you are not just a person you know you are, but will eventually become a persona that you thought you could never be. You have to understand that success is always part of you and the only thing that makes it near there is your positivity.
Nowadays, an individual’s daily habits center around reading Facebook updates, Instagram stories, and tweets. It’s a little bit different before wherein most people read books every day—before they sleep at night, after meals, or during break times at school. If you’re one of these people who do not make an effort to read regularly, there is a chance you’re missing out a lot. Here are some perks you can get from reading.
It Boosts Intelligence
Those who engage in this activity, especially during their early life, tend to grow up more intelligent. In a study in 2014, researchers measured the difference between the cognitive development of around 1,900 sets of twins. The experiment revealed that in twins living in a similar environment, the early reading skills tend to be the deciding factor on who would do better on verbal and non-verbal tests. “Reading gives your brain a different kind of workout than watching TV or listening to the radio,” according to Ken Pugh, PhD.
Reading also stimulates the brain. If you keep it active and engaged, the lesser chances of losing its power. Just like the other muscles inside the body, you have to exercise it regularly to keep it healthy and active. Aside from reading, you can also boost your cognitive stimulation through activities such as chess and puzzles. Keith Oatley, an emeritus professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto, proposed that “reading produces a kind of reality simulation that “runs on minds of readers just as computer simulations run on computers.”
It Lowers Stress Levels
Most people consider reading as a great form of entertainment. No matter how much stress you feel, these thoughts will most likely go away if you immerse yourself in a great story. A well-written novel will bring you to all kinds of places and realms which will take you away from your present reality. Being exposed to these kinds of environment will eliminate your tension and will allow you to relax.
It Will Expand Your Vocabulary
The longer the time you expose yourself with books, the more words you learn. They will inevitably make their way into your daily conversations. Having a high level of vocabulary will help you in your communication skills at work or school and will boost your self-confidence in presenting in front of a broad audience.
This skill will also help you climb your company ladder faster since promotions come quickly to those who are well-spoken, well-read, and knowledgeable in various fields.
It Enhances Your Memory
“Brainy pursuits make the brain more efficient by changing its structure to continue functioning properly in spite of age-related neuropathologies,” Robert S. Wilson, PhD. When you read a book, you need to recall many details such as the characters, their backgrounds and personalities, and the arcs and subplots of the story. If you think about it, all of these are difficult to remember. However, the more you establish your habit of reading, your brain will be able to remember all of this information with relative ease.
It Improves Your Writing Skills
Take note that reading goes hand in hand with your writing skills. When you familiarize yourself with well-written publications, there is a big chance that these will influence your writing style. If you are more exposed to fiction books, the cadence and fluidity of your pieces will improve. On the other hand, if you prefer informative books, it will be easier for you to create a write-up full of facts.
Books are tools for a healthier and more productive lifestyle. Although you don’t directly see their benefits, they come to you in various ways, from improved memory to stress relief. Establishing the best reading habits will bring out a better and improved version of yourself.
Often when someone is about to climb up a career ladder to success, happiness will get in the way. It’s like being torn between two lovers, always caught between which to choose – success or happiness.
Why is there always a need to choose between those two? Can’t we just have both? It’s not about being greedy, but why not if at all possible?
Opportunity Knocks Not Just Once
Have you considered the thought of achieving success on your own terms, not dictated by some people who are already way ahead of you trying to reach for your hand to pull you up?
They often will persuade you by saying, “Opportunity knocks only once,” and not grabbing it means it will be gone forever, and will never again pass your way in your lifetime. That is the very reason why many are hurrying to go up the ladder, the thought of as if the steps will be burned if they will not take it. They think that there will be no other way up there but that just one path. The truth is, it will only be there, whether you accept it or not. Others following you might take it, but you don’t need to worry. There will be more ladders available which are more worth your climb.
Never Burn Your Boat Unless You Find Both In Your Destination
Sometimes, we follow other people blindly without listening to ourselves. We leave everything behind just to pursue the ambition, the dream we’ve imagined all our lives. But often, only when we are there will we realize that it’s not really what we wanted.
It becomes not what you imagined it to be, simply because it’s not the dream that you thought will bring you your happiness. This time your dream has failed you, so then what should you do next? You go back from where you started, doing what you’re passionate about, and begin again from there. “To shift to a more positive mindset and help you be more productive,” psychologist Emma Seppälä recommends, “replacing your belief in strengths with belief in your efforts and replacing self-criticism with self-compassion.”
Happiness Is A Choice
Before you decide on climbing up the ladder to career success, analyze and study things carefully. Is it worth the sacrifice? As what Dr. Wayne Dyer noted, “Our intentions create our reality.” Happiness is always a choice. Yes, you often have to make a decision, but if you made the right one, you could have both success and happiness at the same time.
Scrutinizing the tail and head sides of the coin, examining the four corners of your room, ask yourself, “Is this what I really want?” It’s a crucial question which you should be able to answer with all honesty.
The Climb Is Worth For Those Who Wait
“Opportunity will come your way just this once” are just words, a sales talk, with no much truth to it. Everything, good or bad, comes around and goes around.
The opportunity you did let go because you think it will put your happiness at risk, means waiting for another better one to come your way. When that happens, your glass may be half empty, very much available to be filled. This time, it might be something you’re ready to grab. Perhaps this time it’s something that will not just cater to your material needs, but something that you want and something that you really are happy to take on.
Success and happiness are not impossible to achieve; you just got to learn how to listen to your inner self, the one you’re hiding inside your mind and your heart. If it would mean letting go of what you’ve been dreaming of, so what?
Success will never make sense if you’re not happy about it. But once you’re satisfied with your choice, success is not far from your reach.
As what psychotherapist Joyce Marter quoted, “Everything in life is interconnected. As we evolve, our relationships, work and lives blossom. And, conversely, as we are impacted by our relationships and our work, we evolve.” If you let synchronicity take its course, happiness and success will unfold right before your very eyes.
Out of place. Irrelevant. Invisible. These feelings are horrible but common for some quiet members in certain groups of friends. According to neuropsychologist Theo Tsaousides Ph.D., “Fear of public speaking can prevent you from taking risks to share your ideas, to speak about your work, and to present your solutions to problems that affect many people — and as a result, it can affect how much you grow personally and professionally, and how much impact you can have.” If you lack confidence in speaking up in group conversations, here are a few tips on how to be more open and vocal.
Discover Why You Choose To Stay Quiet
Some are naturally quiet and soft-spoken for no reason. They are just not used to talking much in group conversations. The sad reality is you might be having negative feelings and thoughts that you tend to deal with on your own. It can lead to stress and frustration, which will negatively affect your brain, heart, and other organs. It is a domino effect.
It is vital to know the roots of your aloofness. If your peers are real friends, why are you afraid to open up? The most common reasons are as follows:
- You are scared to become too attached because of past experiences.
- You are not open to feedback or suggestions your friends may tell you.
- You got used to being judged, ignored, or not being heard.
- You are avoiding arguments and misunderstanding.
- You are not confident enough about your ideas and opinions.
- You feel like you cannot relate to most of the things your friends usually talk about.
If one of these is your reason, the problem might be on you and not them. Therefore, it is time to help yourself to contribute more and maintain social connections.
Start With Little Acknowledgements
You cannot just decide overnight that you have to start opening up. “Practice is also key to good preparation,” according to Susan Biali Haas M.D. Of course, you need to prepare your mental and verbal abilities first. You can begin engaging in your group talks more, face to face or online, by saying acknowledging statements such as the following:
- “I heard the same thing.”
- “You’re right.”
- “No way.”
These short responses are an excellent start to let them know you are still with them. Acknowledging them is a sign that you are a good listener. Also, they might reciprocate eventually and ask for more of your thoughts.
Politely Jump In And Know You Deserve To Be Heard
In every conversation, it is crucial to be a good listener. On the other hand, you need to accept the reality that most social group situations are chaotic. As Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary conclude, “humans have a need to belong: “a pervasive drive to form and maintain at least a minimum quantity of lasting, positive, and impactful interpersonal relationships.” You do not have to take it personally when some of your friends talk over you or do not get what you are saying. It is usual for everyone in a group to interrupt each other, speak at the same time, and continuously change the topic.
It is why you need to get the perfect timing to interrupt and talk politely. You can use humor to keep things light. Apologize if you have to. Consider your friends’ experiences and previous talks. That way, they can relate to you and respond better. There is no need to feel bad because of interrupting someone or being interrupted by someone.
Trust In Your Friends More
You are in your social circle for a reason. You might be huge in number, and not everyone may get along well. However, there should be one or two whom you can rely on. If you trust them enough and feel comfortable with them, you know you can speak up. Someone will always be interested in what you have to say.
Trust in your real friends, and they will surely hear you out. You do not always have to do the talking to fit in. Always remember open communication is fundamental in keeping the group together.
Do you understand the struggles we mentioned above? Share in the comments how you overcome them!
It’s late in the evening, and you can’t stop thinking of the hurtful words your loved ones utter to you. It’s difficult to sleep, and you don’t know why. It’s hard to fathom the creeping fear of those threats, the condemnation that it has brought to you. You are starting to lose your grip. Those words are destroying the inner peace you built ever since you decided that you are something better. Your strength is fleeting away as your words are neglected. You put so much pressure on negativity rather than think that things would soon be over and change. It’s never that way – it never has. You need to surpass your strength and weakness. You must die and be reborn over and over again, and by that, you shall live. “The healing process involves much preparation of personality and willpower to stay grounded in the truth of what happened – to say it out loud to themselves that they were wrongly violated,” as stated by Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D.
You Allow It To Happen Until It Eats You Up
Emotional abuse transpires because you let it happen by the grace of love. You know you are damaged, but you decide just to let it go. But as it continues, it crushes your soul until the very moment that you are with a broken puzzle, with a desecration smile. Your life became blurry, and you find yourself lost in words, thoughts, and actions. You have countless sleepless nights, empty bottles, and incalculable bums of cigarettes. You succumbed to your peculiar nightmare. The next day that follows, you decide to live once more.
Pick Yourself Up As No One Will
Insecurities are around the corner, but you said to do you no harm. Grudge words that have once uttered lost its meaning and gone with the smoke. Scars embedded are full of stories for more great starts. Let those hurting words empower you to have the strength to pick up the pieces of the puzzle that will complete you to have the right attitude.
Let Me Tell You Something You Once Knew
Sometimes you wait too long for things to change and convince yourself that tomorrow the sun will rise again and the darkness will stay away, but what you fail to realize is that dimness is not the problem. A new day does not always solve all the issues as long as you don’t believe that there is a light within you that can keep you away from the moon and the stars at night.
There is light everywhere but more so in your eyes that look at things as a reason to stay strong or feel weak. You need to realize that when the sun goes down, it still leaves its power behind for you to breathe and see the possibilities in the dark as well. “Recovering is all about overcoming certain challenges and addressing symptoms,” according to Brook Sprowl, LCSW.
Right Attitude Makes You Your Own Hope
Never wait for the next day to start again, for the moments that change lives are not born with a sunrise. They yield when you start changing. Don’t be afraid to be your own sunshine.
Your life has been quite strange, but perhaps your attitude will gladly be the cornerstone of how you will manage to keep on living, the very thing that will empower you to have the right mindset to go on. It is never easy to live with a rollercoaster of emotions without the support of your loved one, and this could be the reason for your unhappiness.
“It is not your fault. Please find a way to reach out to get help from a trusted person in your circle of friends or family. If not one of them, then talk to a doctor or therapist about your situation. They can help you find resources and get you further help,” suggested Toby D. Goldsmith, MD.
Life is full of opportunities that will lead you exactly where you deserve to be. You have to be patient, taking one step at a time, and by the time you’re ready, the world will be there to brace you.